Shoot or Not to Shoot, That is The Question

To shoot or not shoot, that is the question. Your shot, of course. #Shootyourshot2k16 is a new social media craze that has people putting their inhibitions to side and going after the girl (or guy) they like, like a protagonist in a typical 80's rom-com.The trend of #Shootingyourshot comes from years of pent up passive aggression from people tired of thinking "what if?" rather than "oh well". Shooting your shot has nothing to do with firearms and everything to do with courage. That guy that you've been stalking on Twitter and passively liking on Instagram? He gets a DM. That girl that you remember from your Physics in Motion lecture class that just followed you on snapchat? She gets a DM. Hell, even that the boy who just followed you on Tumblr and after inspecting his pictures you find out that he's FINE? Two letters: D.M.

Many who have shot their shot, have lived to tell the tale of success. Others came out with their egos bruised and their tail between their legs. It's all apart of the process and you can't fall unless you try to fly in the first place , I guess.

I'm totally down with this movement. I like that girls in 2016 are challenging gender norms and are reaching out to guys first. They're probably feeling liberated and powerful by shaking their head at the concept that girls should sit their and wait for a guy to court them. Woman, I hear you roar. You continue to be a go-getter and capture who and want you want.

But.....I cannot and will not be partaking in the #Shootyourshot movement. Not because I am against the movement and not because I am against the hues of feminism, it is because simply, I'm terribly afraid of rejection. I am afraid of the words: "no", "not interested", "you're not my type", "i'm not really looking for anyone right now" or anything of that nature. I'd like to say that this message is brought to you in part by: My Insecurities. I like to think of my self-esteem as a withered, neglected plant in a dark room that is being kept alive by the few drops of water. My feeble self-esteem can't take anymore hits by taking chances that have little to no success rate. Gambling is a dangerous game, so i'll watch off from the sidelines as the encouraging cheerleader who boots your morale and hands you water as your dribble and weave up and down the risky court of your love life.

Now that I give it some more thought, I actually hate that quote, "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take". So yes, every time someone uses it to try and convince me to talk to my crush, I will roll my eyes because it's the most overused, cliche example there is out there. I'm content from watching my crush from afar, it's cool. Instead of #ShootingmyShot i'll just mop the floor after the game.

-We'll chat soon, AubreeKhyleStyle