Does Every Pot Really Have A Lid?

Rarely do I ever stress myself about the many unforeseen aspects of the future, but lately I've been finding myself wondering, "Does every pot really find their lid?". By this I mean: is every single person on this Earth destined to find their one true love? Does every single person have the ability to find that one individual who makes them feel as though their living in a permanent state of nitrous oxide? That one person who makes the impossible can be done? Is that really in everyone's future plans? Put aside the fate and the faith and the destiny and really think: is he/she really out there?

I, like most, am a skeptic. I'm a visual learner who really needs to see facts and figures laid in front of me to wholeheartedly believe. I wouldn't like to be called cynical though, I can't help what I believe in. I just don't think that everybody is meant to have someone. I mean this in the most sincere way possible. Some people are made to be the ones sitting on a pile of money in their old age, ALONE. Some people are meant to dance through life having many lovers and solidifying no commitments. Some people are meant to have hobbies and busy lives and careers that prevent them from giving their attention to a relationship.

I can only imagine what you're thinking: "Aubree, you just contradicted yourself, that just means that the person that you're meant to be with IS out there, you're just choosing to ignore their presence by working vigorously or leading an interesting life" Maybe you're right. Maybe you are ignoring their presence, maybe you're blocking your blessing.... either way you're not with them.

But, let's take it a little bit further. Let's say you do find your one true love. What happens when you lose them? Whether it's due to your own carelessness or maybe the woes of life takes them from you. Do you get another one? Or was that it? Maybe, just like that, your fate is sealed.

I feel like this discussions yields too many "maybes" and "what ifs" and not enough "definitely's" and "absolutely's".

To add insult to injury, I actually don't want to get married at all. I had a moment of self-actualization and realized that I have no interest in an iron-clad legal union that uses the term "forever". Such a scary word, such a long time. A piece of paper doesn't determine the measure of someone's love for me. I could very well find my soulmate and then live a fulfilling time with him without the alter and that trip to the courthouse.

Again, I ask the question: "Does every pot find their lid?". And if so, why are we so concerned when it will come to fruition? If every person is indefinitely meant to find someone that is MADE for them, we should stop wondering when and how it will happen and just let it be. Now this is easier said than done, even I can attest to that. We've all been in a situation where we stare at the ceiling, late at night and overthink until we arrive at the question: "why am I single?". Don't deny it, we've all been there.

Whose to say we can't try on multiple lids until we realize that that the lid we tried on years ago actually is the right fit after all. Maybe that takes trial and error. Maybe that takes chance and gambling.

I'd like to believe that my lid is out there. My lid is brown skin and handsome and intelligent. My lid laughs at my corny jokes and also respects my boundaries. My lid is funny and is open-minded. My lid also has a passion for life and is hungry for adventure. To put it simply, my lid is, my lid. And though I don't when or where or even if he's out there in the first place, I do know that if have to be patient and stop wondering. Do you believe you have a lid waiting for you to stumble upon you one day? Maybe at a coffee shop or at some campus party? Or maybe he's been out there admiring you and you just haven't noticed.

-We'll chat soon, AubreeKhyleStyle Xx